Technically speaking, an "I Message" is a short sentence transmitted by words that starts with the word "I." An "I Message" can be used to help resolve a conflict and to communicate your feelings to someone. If more people knew about "I Messages," then perhaps there would be fewer fights and less violence in our society.
Please look at the table below for examples of "I Messages." How do you think the "I Messages" and "You Messages" would affect someone else? Which type of message do you think would be more effective for communicating your feelings?
| You Messages | I Messages |
| You are the worst person in the world | It makes me feel sad when I hear you say that I am the worst person in the world. I would like you to please take that back. |
| You always want your way when we're picking movies! | I feel upset when you say this because it is not true. I would like to hear what kind of movies you're interested in. |
| You always make fun of me when I don't know the answer to the question. You're the stupid one! | I am sorry, and would like to try to be a better friend |
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